1. Get to know your genitals! Looking at and developing an appreciation of one’s own pussy can help liberate us from sexual shame. To identify an orgasm, get to know those muscles! Flex your PC muscles by pretending to stop the flow of urine. You are tightening and releasing the same muscles that involuntarily contract and release when you come.
2. Prioritize your own self-pleasure. Set aside time to masturbate on a regular basis. No one can do this for you! Masturbating teaches us how we like to be touched and what gets our juices flowing, whether it leads to orgasm or not. Practicing getting aroused is the surest way to learn techniques that can help break new sexual ground, both alone and with a partner. Masturbating builds sexual confidence. If you need some encouragement, try a book like Sex for One, or if you need inspiration, try reading some erotica.
3. Relax. Overall relaxation helps in the beginning—you are looking to build up sexual tension, so set aside the tensions of daily life. Banish thoughts about the dishes in the sink or job stress with our Contour Massage Stones. Take a warm bath and try one of our relaxing bath products or do whatever you need to do to feel completely at ease. This will help you be present in your body and attentive to its responses.
4. Try masturbating at different times of the day. If you try coming only at night, after a long, stressful day and two stiff drinks, you are less likely to get to know the nuances of your desires. You can throw a small toy like the Babeland Silver Bullet in your briefcase and slip away from work for a mid-day romp.
5. Get turned on! Explore your erotic mind by reading sexy fiction, watching explicit movies or writing a fantasy of your own. If you’re new to adult films, try one by a female director. Ask yourself, “What makes me wet?” Revel and indulge in the answer.



6. Experiment. Try rubbing your clit using different motions: stop and start, left and right, around the clock. Pay attention to what feels good and do more of that.
7. Breathe. Take deep breaths so you can move the sexual energy throughout your body. You can also help further your arousal by breathing deeply, rather than holding your breath as you get closer to coming.
8. Add a vibrator. Sometimes a vibrator can carry on where a tired hand or tongue cannot. The steady buzz of a good vibrator on or around the clitoris can solve one common problem—insufficient clitoral stimulation. The Hitachi Magic Wand, Rabbit Habit, and SaSi are our top recommendations.
9. Make noise. Don’t be afraid to move, rock, grunt, scream, and cry during sex. You are seeking total release, so get used to reactions you might have when you lose control. Be silly! Be loud! Let yourself go.
10. Tease yourself. When you hit a plateau of sexual tension, back away from it, breathe deeply, then start again. The sexual energy can build in cycles, each more intense than the last. Take your time and remember to keep breathing. Consistent, deep breathing helps with relaxation—holding your breath can forestall coming.

Sometimes its all about the right time and place. Its hard to try and please yourself when the kids are still awake, when you’ve got an appointment to go to or are still busy thinking about the day’s events. Try and follow some of these steps and you’ll find yourself having an orgasm in no time!

Go have fun!!

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Masturbating in the shower, using the shower head. A hand held shower head is great for directing straight onto the clitoris and vaginal areas creating amazing sensations. Sit or stand depending which is more comfortable and ensure the temperature of the water is as you want it. Use the different settings on the shower head liberally, they all feel pretty nice. If you don’t have a removeable shower head, get one, but in the mean time, place your vagina under the faucet as the water runs. Be carefull not to get any inside.

Clitoral Stroking or Fingering. Gently hold your clitoris at it’s base between two fingers whilst stroking it with the other hand – using either just one finger or more – applying gradually more pressure

Adult Sex Toys. Adult sex toys are great for bringing orgasms. You should experiment with different types as not all will work well for you. The hardest part of using an adult sex toy? Actually buying it! Shop online so that you can save yourself the embarrassment of going in to the store.(Going in the store can be fun if you bring your partner!). Online stores have everything and then some. There are vibrators(they have motors in them) or dildos(glass or gel or latex) and a whole slew of beads and plugs and whatnot. Use the adult toy links on this site and go explore the many different sextoys you can buy.

Rolling your Clitoris. Place your thumb and forefinger around your clitoris and gently roll it between your fingers. Start off slowly then gradually get faster. Intensify the feeling by adding more pressure. Some women find using two hands increases the sensation and the degree of the orgasm they experience.

Hot Tub or Jacuzzi Masturbation. The jets of water in a Jacuzzi or hot tub offer incredible clitoral stimulation. The water stream can sometimes be very powerful so start by keeping at a distance from the jet and move in closer to a comfortable level. You’ll find that the pressure of the water combined with the warmth and general feeling of comfort found while immersed creates a wonderful orgasm that should be experienced by all women at least once in life.

Clitoral Circling. This is great for when you are desperate for sexual relief and want to orgasm in a hurry. (Maybe before the kids or the hubby gets home? Maybe a quick one at work under the desk?). Using two fingers from each hand place them over your clitoris. Move the fingers around in a circular motion. Adjust the speed and pressure so that your orgasm will come faster.

We’ll have them up shortly along with some still photos too. For all the porn surfers, Use the porn links on the right because these videos will be shot from the neck down. Nothing to see here men!

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There are a few different ways to masturbate in the shower. In addition the two we’ve already mentioned, there are all sorts of different positions or techniques you can try in order to give yourself a powerful orgasm.

We’re currently working on a downloadable e-guide to Masturbation in the Shower. If you’d like send in your video clips, or have a technique that you’d like share, send an email to female-masturbation-tips@hotmail.com. We’ll pay you $25 for any clips we decide to use!

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